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Are you 100% confident that you have discovered what is your purpose in life?
If so, I applaud you!
You live without wonder and fear?
Or you settle for ‘what is’ instead of wondering ‘what if’?
And what does ‘finding your purpose in life’ mean anyway?
Does it mean that you have worked hard to become a doctor because that is what you said you would do at 8 years old?
Or is going to college, work hard, have three kids, and downsize once they leave the nest egg?
Life is like a question with no answer!
To some of us, finding our purpose in life is the question asked every single morning.
We pray for answers, only to become inpatient when the answer is not immediate.
We yearn, beg, and plead for a crystal ball to help us to discover our joy and what we want to do with our life. Happiness is questioned and fear takes over.
You may be one that is constantly looking for something more, yet only to find yourself stuck in the same situation day in and day out.
Or, you ask yourself ‘What-if’s’ all of the time?
What if I took a chance at doing what I’ve always wanted to?
Or, what if I chose to overcome the fear that is holding me back from being fulfilled?
What if I turned a hobby into a living?
What if I left, would I survive on my own?
What if I did feel happy in what I was doing everyday?
Finding your purpose in life impacts everything else.
One’s found purpose has a tremendous impact on lifelong decisions, behaviors, beliefs, happiness, family, and legacy.
Sadly, we often get so bogged down from what is expected from society, we lose sight on our true being.
Or, we live a life in disbelief, causing us to lose the ability to see outside of the glass box that we’ve been stuck in for so long.
“The dream in your heart may be bigger than your environment, but sometimes you have to get out of that environment in order to see that dream fulfilled”-Joel Osteen
Most often, you will hear others say that their purpose is to become successful, married, kids, travel, help others, and be happy. These are wonderful goals to have.
But what happens to those that live a life believing this purpose is reality?
Is it because it is what our family or society has led us to believe?
Or, with the mentality of doing more is a waste of time?
Some may never realize this is how they feel, and others may fear the unknown to letting go from what is exected of them.
To find your purpose in life, it is dependent on what path you are on at that time.
Are you unhappy with your job, even though you are financially secure?
Or, do you panic because the path that was your security route suddenly spirals down an unknown road?
The cool thing about claiming your purpose, is that it is your own!
It’s that passion that excites you every morning. It is what motivates you to doing your very best and knowing that you have conquered.
Even though your plans change and challenges may arise, you do have control of your outcome.
Take me for an example. If you were to look at my life, you would think I had it all. To some degree, yes!
I have a healthy family, wonderful friends, successful career, and in the process of a home remodel.
However, what many don’t know is that I also allow the mental chatter inside of my head to take control of my happiness.
There are times that I question if I’m doing the right thing. Have I found my true passion and purpose in what makes me happy every single day? I question that daily.
One of the best things that helped me in learning to ‘bless and release’ the things I have no control of is Joel Osteen’s, Your Best Life Now: 7 Steps to Living at Your Full Potential.
Working as a Family Nurse Practioner brings many rewards.
I’ve grown to become apart of others families, their success stories, and privledged in helping them to feel better.
And like all careers, there are many down falls that lead to stress and burn out. I question if I want to have this weight on my shoulders forever.
With COVID, there have been times where healthcare was sucking the life out of me.
There are more demands from administration, loss of respect from patients, and the emotional toll of seeing so many ill on a daily basis.
I experienced loss of interest, burn out, and almost to the point of having compassion fatigue.
Compassion fatigue can arise from physical and emotional exhaustion.
To learn more about compassion fatigue and the devastating effects it can have on our health, visit COMPASSION FATIGUE: 30 WARNING SIGNS FOR FRONTLINE WORKERS IN 2021
Having compassion fatigue has made me realize there are times I feel that I’m on a lost path, searching for what is my true purpose in life.
What ignites my inner being? Is it possible for there to be days again where I wake up excited about the day?
A friend, and mentor, recently shared how knowledgeable and dedicated she thinks I am when it comes to goals and commitments that I make.
She said that I am one who sets my mind to something and takes off.
Yes, I enjoy learning and Lord knows I’ve had enough schooling with three degrees.
And while I appreciate the compliment, a downfall to having these traits is that your mind is constantly running, wanting to invest in more, do more, learn more.
It can get to the point of feeling like a massive tornado of thoughts is going on in your head and causing frustration in trying to figure out what you truly want. I remember in High School, my best friend, Michelle, and I went to Mississippi to take an aptitude test. I just knew that this was going to put all of my talents and traits into one backet and help me to decide what to study in college and do forever with my life. Michelle had five traits listed, I had 27. If you don’t think I wasn’t pissed, you are wrong!
Guess what the results are all these years later?
Well, Michelle has been successful and moved up in a company that she has been with for YEARS! And I have advanced my education three different times, had various careers in healthcare, and always looking for more ways to invest in myself and one day not have to answer to anyone. It’s mentally exciting, rewarding, and exhausting all in one!
It is what it is!
Society teaches us to become fixated on that one thing.
Through all of this, I have learned more about myself and that it is time to discover who I truly want to be at 40.
I believe that this new hobby is taking me down several other trails, hopefully leading to the right road.
I’ve always been told I should write.
However, whether I am any good at writing or not is still in question.
I have also become more fulfilled by sharing my thoughts, ideas, and experiences to entertain and inspire others.
Writing is one easy activity I recommend to my patients on a daily basis.
It allows you to free your thoughts, explore your desires, and get rid of anger that may be eating inside of you.
It also helps to retrain the brain to focusing on the positive things in life.
Because even though you have a ton of shit going on, it is important to not forget about the things to be thankful for.
This new journey has allowed me to open my eyes and realize that true success doesn’t have to come from just one job.
If we were to put all of our eggs in one basket, we would be screwed should it drop.
Building my Topanga Scents business has allowed me to help others in a unique and different way.
Because don’t we feel good when we smell good?
Yes, and this can impact the entire day!
I am also more aware of the connection that certain scents have on our overall health.
For example, it allows me to suggest various options for better sleep and how one feels.
For instant, the Brentwood scent includes plants and aromas known to have various positive effects on our health.
THE BENEFIT OF BRENTWOOD PLANT-BASED INGREDIENTS.... Tropical Passion Fruit : -helps to keep your spirits live -keep your senses organized -the fruity aroma can help to boost a 'sunnier state of mind' -tranquilizing effects -passion fruit is used in things such as sedatives and anti-anxiety meds -assist with insomnia and nervousness Patchouli : -a wood, sweet, spicy scent -treats skin conditions such as dermatitis, acne, dry/cracked skin -relieves depression -improves relaxation -helps ease stress or anxiety -eases symptoms of cold, headaches, upsest stomach -masks odors such as smoke, alcohol, animal odor, body odor -kills germs and fights fungus -great home deodorizer -promotes skin complexion -decreases the appearance of blemishes, skin imperfections, and wrinkles -stimulates the glands to increase libido
Being open to new opportunity can lead to great rewards.
If you would like to know more about the health benefits to using clean, plant-based cleaning products, check out Why it is the Best Smelling Laundry Detergent in 2021!!
Topanga Scents is a family-owned business, with their goal to providing new opportunity for families to work from home.
Had I not hopped on this new path, I would not have other options in helping my patients.
It has taught me patience and I’m beginning to see the positive outcomes just for remaining dedicated.
People have been excited over a simple aroma that they smell.
Because after all, like we keep saying….. to smell good makes you feel good.
It has also been rewarding to be a part of a team that is growing and to bring happiness to others homes.
Choosing to not let FEAR hold you from DREAMS!
Like anything else, I do hear the negative comments and doubts from others.
Why am I spending the little pockets of time that I have writing and trying to do something else? Why can’t I just be happy with having an already successful career.
The answer is that I know what the outcome will be. And I’m learning more about my true purpose, goals, and joy.
I choose not to let fear take over my dreams! I choose not to let others opinions control my happiness! I choose not to quit just because things may not be moving as fast as I would like!
Ultimately, I am discovering a new sense of being fulfilled, excited, and feeling as if I have a new meaning each day.
Isn’t that what life is all about?
What is your purpose in life?
“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt
Finding your purpose in life brings passion, happiness, success, and fulfillment.
It can lead to a beautiful and fulfilling life.
And sadly, there are those that may not know what this satisfaction truly feels like.
You allow your mindset to take control in finding your faults and failures.
Mindset has such a powerful hold on where we are in life and where we wish to be.
For example, when we carry thoughts of negativity and failure, this allows us to stay trapped in that mindset. This can lead to disaster.
We judge ourselves, become frustrated with the not having an answer, and become unaccepting.
Fred Silverston, a licensed mental health counselor with Harvard-affiliated McLean Hospital once said, “give yourself permission to have these feelings without judging yourself. This will help to become more at ease with who you are now, so you can approach your new purpose in life with greater motivation and confidence”.
Now is the time to stop! Unleash the chains that hold you back!
We have one life and with that, shall we choose unhappiness and believing that our dream is only in a fairytale.
Or do we take chances and leaps of faith to discover what true happiness feels like?
Ask yourself, why do you want to find your purpose in life?
Now is the time to live a purpose-driven life.
You may not know what that even feels like, to find purpose in each moment and knowing what exactly to do.
Learning to discover what is your purpose in life is may take time, effort, and a lot of self-reflection.
Because not knowing what you want is so much better than knowing and unable to get it.
Think of all the positive outcomes that can arise by finding what truly makes you happy and letting go of all the rest. Maybe it is colliding a passion with a career, or taking a sabbatical to climb the highest mountain.
According to the Journal of Behavioral Medicine, studies have shown that finding your purpose in life can actually lead to a longer, healthier, and happier life.
Because whatever your purpose may be, happiness occurs when your success aligns with your sense of purpose.
Bu,t how do we find our purpose in life?
First of all, it is important to know that it is ok if you don’t know how or where to find your answer.
The cool part of this journey is the search, which allows you to learn more of who you are and where you want to be.
Imagine your life as a treasure map.
This map can help you to discover amazing things about yourself.
Furthermore, it can then impact so many other areas of your life.
The Japanese culture believe in a concept known as Ikigai, meaning life (-iki) and benefit or worth (-gai).
Ikigai represents your purpose for getting up every morning and the happiness that you deserve.
To me, this kind of resembles a treasure map leading one to discover their self-worth, meaning, purpose, and happiness in life. It This map can be interchangable based on what life brings and specific to you! It helps to acknowledge the path that you are on and learning what brings meaning.
Look at it as a navigational tool for re-discovering who you are from within and discovering the new direction towards a more purposeful life.
There is great literature on the Ikigai method and one good start is to journal.
Because not only will Ikaigia allow you to discover your strengths, but also to identify your weaknesses, desires, passion, and goals.
To learn more about Ikaigia, Jeffrey Gaines, P.h.D., shares a great blog. Check it out at The Philosophy of Ikigai: 3 Examples About Finding Purpose.
What can help you to discover your purpose on a daily basis?
While the Ikigai practice is extremely fascinating, there are other tips that can help to discover what is your purpose in life.
WHAT-IF you were able to dig deep in your soul to re-discover your purpose in life and actually make a living doing what you love?
Guess what? YOU CAN!
Looking for helpful tips to re-discovering your passion and goals in 2021? These tips can hopefully be the start of living a life without constant worry, self-doubt, and ‘what-if’s.
1. Stop making excuses
2. Learn to be ok with uncertaintity
3. Be open to new opportunity
4. Ask for guidance
5. Dust off your dreams
6. Focus on you
7. Learn to say NO
9. Pamper yourself
10. Do things that you enjoy
11. Step outside of your comfort zone
12. Invest in YOU
13. Reflect on your thoughts and ideas
14. Take time to be quiet and listen
15. Be consistent
16. Enjoy not knowing
17. Do something outside
18. Be in the moment
19. Start a gratitude journal
20. Learn to leave work at home
21. Go on a date
22. Reconnect with an old friend
23. Take a class
25. Write a letter
26. Replace negative thoughts
28. Work on a goal
Life doesn’t have to feel stressful and meaningless
Imagine each day feeling full of joy!
Finding what is your purpose in life can be just this!
And while it may take time for you to mold into a new way of living, remember that it can bring so many rewards.
You will be able to focus more on what is important to you.
Build stronger relationships.
Be more patient with setbacks and allow yourself to learn from them.
Be confident in knowing that you are on the road to finding your calling.
And finding success in whatever career, journey, or relationship life endures.
Each day is a blessing.
You are given this one life and it is up to you in how you want to live it.
And whether you have regrets from the past or still on a path of an unknown direction, finding your passion and your purpose can start now.
Are you ready?
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Jessica Berry, APRN